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There are many different types of sexual problems, they happen to many people and they can be very distressing. Difficulties having sex can bring on feelings of performance anxiety, apprehension and shame and these feelings only make the sexual problem worse.

Most people experience some form of sexual dysfunction at some point in their lives. Common sexual problems that people bring to therapy include:

• loss of sexual desire
• problems with penetration
• erectile dysfunction
• premature ejaculation
• vaginismus
• orgasm difficulties
• sex addiction
• porn addiction

Sex is a complex force. It has biological, psychological and emotional components.

Some sexual problems are purely physical, resulting from a disability, an illness or side effects from medication. Your GP can discuss options for treatment of these types of sexual problems. However, most sexual problems are psychological. These problems might originate in negative messages that have been picked up about sex, previous experiences of sexual trauma or previous negative sexual encounters. Depression, anxiety, self-esteem and self-worth issues also facilitate sexual dysfunction.

Cultural, generational and religious factors often play a role in how a person experiences sex.

Sometimes people find it hard to discuss sex and discussing sexual problems can be even more difficult. Experienced therapists are used to these sensitive conversations and will quickly normalise any discussions about sex or sexual problems. Most clients are surprised how quickly they overcome any concerns about discussing sex once the initial anxiety has been alleviated.

Sex, itself, can be intimidating. Your partner may want to try sexual acts that you do not feel comfortable with. Or you may feel uncomfortable communicating your sexual desires to your partner.

To speak to someone about sexual problems, please get in touch. Our therapists are experienced in working with many sexual issues and we can refer clients with certain psycho-sexual problems for specialist care. If you prefer to speak to a male or female therapist, just let us know when setting up your first appointment.

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